Agreed Parenting Plans
The State of Texas encourages parents to share parental duties and the rights and responsibilities of their child after they have separated or divorced.Agreed parenting plans are ultimately what is best for your child. Think about it, if two parents who know the child and the child’s needs are in agreement, how can a Judge that does not know the child and who has no more than a couple hours hear two people point out the worst in one another know what is best? Unfortunately, everyday Judges are put in just that position and asked to decide what two parents cannot – with whom does the child reside most of the time.It is difficult for a parent to hear, but one Judge I know has been known to tell parents in his courtroom that they are “stupid” for allowing the Court to decide custody. This Judge has a very terse and direct way of getting to the point, but the point is well taken. He routinely tells parents they are stupid to let a stranger decide the fate of their child and they are giving thier child´s college education to the lawyer´s kids because they are being selfish.
While not every case is a matter of two parents just trying to win, I do agree with the Judge, there are times when a custody fight is just plain stupid and one side is fighting for the wrong reason. Fortunately, when this happens, the Judge can award attorneys fees to cover the cost of the other parent´s attorney.